The Tinkling of her Anklets


Her hair falls below her waist adorned by a satin ribbon which arrests her hair in a long plait. Her forehead is smooth with a humongous red bindi placed between her eyebrows. Her nose is always twinkling with a gold nose pin. She smiles with all her heart and radiates pure love. A typical gold chain with black beads hangs around her neck indicating that she is tied in the holy matrimony of marriage. A light clinking noise accompanies her as she wears rainbow colored glass bangles. The whole appearance boasts of  an ideal Indian woman.  She loves to wear traditional silver anklets which tinkle whenever she walks.

The day she was born, her mother couldn’t be happier, her father beamed after seeing her little one. But her grandparents weren’t happy   because they wanted a boy who could take the family legacy forward. They always wanted a boy, so they showed their vexation. Her mother was heartbroken because she was condemned for not being able to give birth to a baby boy.

Days dissolved into years and the baby girl grew into a doting daughter. As a girl she was always told to keep silent and keep her views to herself. She was never appreciated by anyone in the family except her mother. She was an obedient daughter and a hard worker, but never received the love she deserved by her grandparents even after her younger brother was born.
She is humble and down to earth. She is sweet to anyone around, even to people who are rude to her. She talks in whispers and is skittish enough to never expose her feelings.
Her family had been waiting to get her married since she was born as it was their ultimate karma. In India kanyadaan is referred as the ultimate karma of parents that is to give their daughter’s hands in marriage to her future husband. So a suitable groom was searched and without her consent, her hands were hennaed, her head was covered in red veil and she was married.
Her husband’s parents didn’t want her to work outside, she silently accepted the ban. Her life partner took all the critical decisions himself without consulting her and she obeyed him. Even after all this, she always remained grateful to her parents for everything. She is the perfect Indian housewife.
Each morning she gets up, does all the chores, cooks all the meals and is at the beck and call of everyone in the family and has no life of her own. She hardly has any hobby left and has a dearth of time to even sit and relax for some time. Yes, she watches the daily soaps and that is it, her only source for some entertainment possible.
She is content with her life of loving and caring for her family. Her children dote on her and her husband loves her too, but are incompetent to understand what she deserves and what she should do in life. He is too busy with his work. Meanwhile, even after so many years of marriage, her in-laws still castigate her for small little things, but she keeps mum about it too.
She is happy with her current life as she has lost all connection with herself. She has no desires for herself but her children. She kills her demands if any by putting her children and husband first. She keeps on sacrificing everything for her family and gets no acknowledgement in return. Of course her family loves her, but is that enough? There was a time when she loved painting but now she doesn’t have time to even pick up a brush for herself.
Her identity is lost in an incessant cloud of nothing. Her only identity now is the ‘clink’ of her bangles & ‘tinkle’ of the anklets.

 

 

India is a country of rich culture and heritage. The above scenario doesn’t apply to the metropolitan cities but the rest of the country. The country is developing at a crazy speed but there are parts of India which are still a century behind the other countries of the world in terms of the culture they follow.
Girls are still looked down upon. They are considered to be a burden and not given equal stature as men. This happens in the rural India which comprises 60% of the country’s population.  Girls are married at a tender age of 18 and their education is not given much importance. The women are definitely not allowed to speak their minds as the house is run by the men in the family. This is of course an extreme case, but still relevant. There are millions of women who are extremely talented but are lost in the routine of their marriage because of lack of support from their family. They lead their lives silently accepting the restrictions after marriage.
I dedicate this post to those house managers who give all their lives in nurturing their family and giving up all their dreams so that their children achieve those dreams she once had…….
But if you are one of them and reading it then please WAKE UP!!!
Do something about the life God gifted you, you are never late, so if you have a dream and want to achieve it then do it NOW!
NOW is the right time to fly and break all shackles that hold you down and stop you from achieving that DREAM!!!!!!!  

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22 thoughts on “The Tinkling of her Anklets

  1. I was one of those women (back in the 50s-70s). Married 17 years; divorced, single 12 years and remarried now for 25 years. Marriage should be a partnership with both people being able to express themselves, both making decisions in their marriage, and of course, they should feel love for each other (that makes it much easier to go through the thick and the thin that comes in any marriage) 🙂

    • hi!
      i am touched to hear your story. I hope your future life only has happiness for you. I agree with you as the marriage falls apart the moment one of the people involved thinks to be the Master of the household.
      thank you for sharing your story! 🙂

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    • hi!
      i am overwhelmed by your gesture. Thank you so much!!

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      • Just go to my site and it’s the most recent post. Sorry you can’t open the link. I hope it’s ok for other people. Anyway, you deserve the nomination. I enjoy your site, and chatting back and forth. Now you get to give out some awards!

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